Last year, I promised myself I would present my own workshop to clients. I wrote it, I re-jigged it, I talked about it endlessly with clients, I talked about it with my mentor, I told my PR lady, I even told my kids…. I imagined what it might be like, me talking about my passion to other people and helping them….then I did nothing. Big fact flaky nothing.
I told my self stories: it had to be delivered in the right place: not too posh and not too basic. It had to be in a place with a nice lunch and decent coffee. It had to be perfect. In fact, I pressurised myself so much to produce a thing of perfection that I worked myself into a complete anxiety about whether it would be good enough at all. That’s when the mind gremlins kicked in and boy did they kick.
I re-worked that workshop so much you would have thought Ofsted was coming to see it – in some senses this would have been easier – I know all about Ofsted having worked in teaching for sixteen years, that seemed like a ‘breeze’ compared to what I was about to do: put out my own stuff into the ether to real live clients who would be paying to come along….
In the end it was too much. I shelved the workshops and went back to doing one to one work and small meditation classes. I went back to my comfort zone and hid for a while.
Then an odd thing happened. I had a ‘telling off’ from a potential client on email. It was a strange kind of ‘telling off’ but it was the best kind I have ever had, it went like this:
Client: I need to get my head sorted and soon – when can I book in with you?
Me: I’m really sorry I am booked until next month.
Client: Oh my god, that’s terrible, I need to get sorted and I want to come and see you now, I can’t believe aren’t available for ages – what about a workshop I can come to in the meantime?
Me: *gulp* so sorry but I haven’t got around to doing that yet.
That was when it dawned on me, the workshops were NOT about me. They were about serving my clients: If I could help people on a one to one, I can help more in a group setting.
I revisited my workshop materials and made a decision: DONE is better than Perfect. My clients needed to get sorted when they were ready to be so. By stepping out of my comfort zone I was helping them.
This is true of you I bet. I know this because I see it in just about everyone I meet and work with: I see their skills and individuality, I see the way they can help others to shine and how they often take their innate gifts for granted. I also see them hiding their talents until they feel their work is ‘perfect’.
In the end, it is not about ‘us’, it is about who we can help – hiding our light is not helpful – no once finds a lighthouse useful if the light isn’t working – there’s no guidance to be had there.
This year I have put on three workshops – I pushed my own ‘whinge bag’ of an EGO to one side and got on with the job at hand. My workshops are not perfect but they are as good as I can make them right now and the feedback so far has been wonderful. As it turned out, no one cared about the quality of the coffee, they did care about the content of the workshop and my delivery – they cared about what I was sharing with them and how they could create their own Therapeutic Took Kit for Calm©
So my point is this, whatever you are working on, creating or thinking about sharing, there’s no time to waste. I read a recent quote that said ’to be human is to lead a creative life’.
Please don’t hide your light – done is better than perfect.